HOT YOGA MAMA

The first response for most people would be YES! But I thought I would bring this up because I think it depends on the situation or circumstance surrounding one’s ’singlehood’.

If you have recently gone through a divorce - a messy one at that and you’re finally free, it’s gotta feel good. No more drama, no more additional kid to look after. You can pull out the frilliest bed covers you can find and no man is going to complain about it. Your house will most likely stay well kept, no extra laundry to do, no dirty clothes or socks to pick up off the floor, and no dirty dishes in the sink from someone who never thanked you for the home made meal you cooked for them.

If you had been in an abusive relationship, that’s pretty obvious.

But what happens when you’ve enjoyed months and months (if not years) of being single? And you start to wonder, what if?

A single life can be still be full of passion. I can’t say I have had a lot of lovers in my past, but I had enough that made me realize that wasn’t for me. It was too hard NOT to become attached to them. A big reason why I am married now! Hah! Look where that got me:)

Anyway, a single life is full of it being all about you, and frankly I think that’s the best part. You go shopping for yourself, you can eat what you want and not have to share your food. You can pretty much do whatever you want and not have to worry about being criticized, at least not by a significant other.

In my experience, the longest I went withougt a relationship was about a year and a half. I enjoyed it. I really liked spending money on myself and going out all the time with my best friend. I liked dating and not getting serious.

On the couple ocassions I took on a lover, I felt , well, loved. I didn’t feel smothered, taken advantage of, or slutty. I just felt it was right for me at the time. No one got hurt, no one felt disrespected…

I liked grocery shopping for myself, eating whatever I wanted at any given time and not being made fun of. I liked not feeling self conscious about my body, worrying about looking cute for someone, not having to ‘put out’.

I didn’t miss intimacy or affection. I didn’t feel lonely. I didn’t wonder what it would be like to be with someone.

So being happily single is definitely possible. The question is, for how long?

I believe God made us to partner up with someone, procreate, and live our lives with the people we love; making the human race live on.

I don’t think God intended us to be alone, or else he would not have created Eve from Adam. That’s just my personal opinion.

This is all coming from a married mother of 4 who genuinely can say she loves her life. I don’t live an extraordinary life. I can’t say I have done anything “big” yet. But I am happy having found the person who is right for me and creating a family.

What do you think of this? Are you single and happy? What makes you really enjoy your life in singlehood? And if you feel otherwise, why is that?